Emotional, Physical and Sexual Abuse
Emotional and Psychological Abuse
Emotional and Psychological Abuse can happen to children, adults and the elderly across the different classes.
We know from our therapeutic work with Adults but also with children, that this has profound consequences for the individuals mental health, identity and confidence.
Psychological abuse can be subtle or obvious and usually involves the abuser taking advantage of their power and trying to control the person in some way.
For children, this can take the form of a parent humiliating the child often in front of others, being critical of their efforts or their behaviours or appearance. A parent may place too much responsibility on the child for their age, or expect too much from them for their age, rely on them for their own needs and not prioritise the child's needs.
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Or not offer enough love and affection. A child may also experience bullying at school by students peers or teachers which is also emotional abuse.
Adults may experience bullying at college, work or in their relationship with a partner, husband or wife. These experiences can also be about chronic patterns of humiliation and bullying or making unreasonable demands without reciprocating or thinking of the others needs.
As we see in the news, the elderly are particularly vulnerable to bullying by either family or carers.
We know from our counselling work that these experiences can lead to anxiety, depression and suicidal pre-occupations or self harm.
Physical abuse varies between hitting someone repeatedly with hands or an object, withholding food and medical attention. It can also refer to an assault with a knife, gun or other weapon.
This also includes locking someone in a cupboard or small space, not allowing them to sleep, burning or tying them up.
Physical abuse of babies includes shaking them, dropping them or throwing them at the wall. or other hard place.
Domestic violence refers to physical, emotional and sexual abuse of a spouse or partner.
Physical abuse is known to cause mental health problems later in life and this can lead to eating disorders, chronic health problems and body pains, headaches, depression and anxiety states.
Sexual abuse usually refers to inappropriate sexual contact between a child and an adult, usually someone who has some kind of family or professional authority over them.
Sexual abuse can include verbal remarks about sex, sharing pornographic materials or films with a child, involving them in sexualised rituals in front of a camera or online, on their own or with others, and fondling, kissing coercing the child to touch or kiss them, or attempting oral sex or intercourse with them.
Girls are more likely to be abused than boys but estimates may not represent the true figures as many children do not tell anyone or are not believed if they do and so it goes unreported. NSPCC research shows; 1 in 3 children do not tell anyone. Over 90% of children sexually abused were abused by someone they knew. Over 2,800 needed protection last year, Over 36,000 sexual offences against children were recorded last year in 2014. Over One third of sexual offences are recorded by the police against children.
I would also include sexual violence here which includes rape, either from a stranger, a group usually boys or a boyfriend or partner.
From police records and research, in the last 12 months in England and Wales, 473,00 adults reported a sexual violent crime; around 404,000 females and 72,000 were male.
These experiences lead to humiliation, shame, depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties, suicide and many other serious mental health problems. But these conditions can be overcome.
Counselling and Psychotherapy can help.
Ring Carolyn Burnett for help on 07852598005.